User:TobyFlendersonn

Toby Flenderson, the HR rep for Dunder Mifflin Scranton, is often seen as a sad, hopeless, sweet, agreeable man. However, there is so much under that. He is creepy, stalker-like, and unprofessional in the workplace, letting his emotions affect his decisions and taking advantage of his position. Though many cannot see it, there is a darker side of Toby Flenderson.

To start, Toby is terrible at his job. On the surface, he is agreeable and tries to help when he can. However, on a deeper level, it is clear that he does not care about his job. Not saying that everyone else in Dunder Mifflin Scranton cares about their job, but Toby's job is essential. It is not just that he has no passion for his work; it is that he does not take anything seriously, and because he is in Human Resources, his job is significant.

An example is Dwight’s complaints against Jim. Even though Dwight is nuts, it is unprofessional not to file any of his complaints against Jim. Furthermore, while Jim's pranks are funny, if Toby were doing his job, he would have put an end to those pranks, which are not acceptable in a professional work environment. And not only does Toby do nothing to stop Jim's antics, he completely refuses to file Dwight’s complaints.

Toby also allows his emotional biases to affect his decision making in his position as a human resource rep. A lot of this has to do with Pam. The way he handles his feelings for Pam is childish and unprofessional. His crush on her is creepy, as he admires her from 'afar,' like a middle schooler. He wants attention from her, but will never do anything to get it. Of course, this attitude prevents him from ever saying anything to her, which has her ending up with Jim. Jim and Pam are meant to be, but while Jim was dating Karen, or while they were both single, Toby could have shot his shot. Do keep in mind that Pam did say that Toby was cute, so they could have gone out to the movies or had dinner, even if their relationship did not last too long.

It is not just that he did not make a move, it is how his pathetic and creepy obsession affects his actions after Jim gets Pam. Even though he has no one to blame but himself, he continues to act passive-aggressively towards Jim for a long, long time. He complains about their relationship before they go public and uses his platform to shame them publicly. Jim and Pam were not making their co-workers uncomfortable, and they were not acting in an unprofessional manner. It was just Toby being petty and taking advantage of his position.

This is not the only time where Toby uses his position in HR to be petty about their relationship. He refuses to give them a form to disclose their relationship to Dunder Mifflin saying that the forms are only for 'serious' relationships and that they should wait and see what happens. Additionally, when Ryan is unfair, giving Jim a 'formal warning' about his work performance, Toby also uses his position in HR to enforce this warning and even smiles when Jim gets it. It is clear and evident that Toby only does this out of jealousy.

Whenever Toby's feelings for Pam come up, Toby always seems to handle them the wrong way. For example, in the scene where Pam laughs and Toby's joke, instead of feeling good or happy, Toby puts his hand of Pam's leg in front of everyone. Keep in mind; Pam is dating Jim at the time. Toby clearly does this without thinking about how inappropriate this is. Many people make mistakes, but this is an unusual mistake to make. Also, he handles his errors poorly. Instead of apologizing, he moves to a different country.

He was also willing to go to Pam's art show over his own daughter's school play when it was clear that Toby barely gets any time with his daughter. Furthermore, if someone is willing to go to a co-worker's art show over a daughter's play, there is something wrong with them.

Overall, Toby is weak and petty. He causes his own problems and then asks, "Why me?" He handles his emotions poorly and lets them affect work. Though he is not a 'bad guy' and a hated person, his job is essential because he handles other people's issues and lives in the workplace. Furthermore, let us face it, how can you handle others' emotions if you cannot even handle your own?